Let It Be Known

femmefatalex:

jaeboogie:

“Once you change who you are and know self, if he messes up and leaves, there should be no cause for you to get hysterical. If you’re centered in self and know what’s good for you, you’ll realize that this person wasn’t the person you thought he or she was. They weren’t for your benefit and it’s only right that they’re out of your life. You won’t need to worry about what you did wrong, what could have been done better or differently. You’ll know it wasn’t you, it was him. He lost out. He wasn’t about trying to establish anything. He’s not worth the energy of you calling, pleading for the two of you to talk things out. You don’t need to know what you could have done differently because you’ll then find yourself going backward. He’s not worth your constantly thinking, worrying about and crying your eyes out. What were you doing before he entered your world, you shouldn’t feel like you’re nothing after he leaves it.

Our mind set needs to be different. We need to have more self-worth. Realize the person wasn’t what you thought they were and move on. You can be hurt and saddened by the thought of what could have been, had he or she been the right person, but since they’re not, be smart about your pain. You can mourn the loss of the idea, but not the actual person if that person proves not to be the person for you. In fact, you should celebrate that you’ve escaped something that could have been much worse.”

— from “Love Awaits” by Courtney Long